Hey, everyone. It feels really good to be back on a regular posting schedule again.
Do you know what else feels good? Living in a society where open discourse on mental health is emerging as a widely accepted- and encouraged- way of life. Seriously. It feels unbelievably good to open up my laptop, log on to the internet (which is a place historically fraught with the highest of highs and the lowest of lows) and find a growing community of boss babes and men in touch with their freaking feelings, talking openly and honestly about their struggles and their journey, and supporting one another.
I’ve said in the past that I didn’t know if I was ready to speak as freely, at least on this blog. I don’t think today will be that day, at least not for me. I’m not sure if I want to make today the forum to reveal all about myself- but I thought I would take the time to write a short post celebrating all the people I know, that I love, and that I haven’t met yet.
It is hard. It is hard to wake up and feel not okay all the time, or be waiting for the mean little voice inside your head to dictate to you how you should be perceiving the world and how others perceive you. I’ve known friends and family members that have struggled also. Some of those people are not here with us today. To me, that says that the ways of the past, where mental illness was treated as a shameful stigma, cannot be tolerated. Suffering in silence for the sake of conforming to propriety is not worth a human life.
If I could give anyone advice (not saying I’m at all qualified to), I would just say this: be as kind as you can. To others, but especially to yourself. It’s not selfish, it’s not weird, it’s self-care- making your wellbeing, inside and out, a true priority. Secondly: talk to people. You don’t need to tell every person the intimate details of your individual situation, but no person can lock their feelings away and bottle it all up and live healthily. Find friends you can trust, share positivity out there in the world (especially social media, which has entirely too much negativity), and for pete’s sake check out your options for therapy. Again, it’s not shameful to seek out professional help if you need it.
And lastly, pursue your passion(s). It is incredibly cathartic to have an outlet, a means of expressing all the things you aren’t fully ready or maybe don’t know how to share with the world. For me, that’s writing. It could be music or painting for you, a change in scenery or a change in your interpersonal relationships. Seek a life that makes you feel good to live it. Not every day, because we all have days that are difficult. But a full life is one that makes all the moments, the joyous and the painful, all exquisitely worth it in the grand scheme of things.
For me, I credit this blog, among a few other life changes, with the 180 degree turn my life has pivoted for the better. I honestly didn’t realize it until I had anything to compare it to, but I don’t know if I was ever consistently happy before this. I am living more honestly, surrounding myself with good company, and going after my dreams. And yeah, not every day is great, but life is good. Life is good.
Happy World Mental Health Day, everyone. Spread love and light today- you never know the difference a hug or listening ear makes.
Keep it real,