Hi, everyone. It’s been a really extended absence (even though my previous post was supposed to be my triumphant return to blogging) but in my defense, I have had essentially the plague for the last week, so not a lot of things got checked off the to-do list.
Mike and I are starting a new training program Monday to get us both back into the gym before the New Year hits. We’ve been slacking a lot lately, but have settled on a possible solution: we’ll keep tabs on how often we hit the gym, together or separately, and put two dollars into a discretionary pool for each time. At the end of the month, we’re free to use the amount, however large or small, however we want. Dinner, movie, maybe that breakfast sandwich maker I keep eyeing at Target- but we have to actually go in order to have enough to do much of anything.
Which brings me to my point today. I think working out with a significant other has significant benefits and drawbacks, but I want to focus on the positives in light of our big day Monday.
1. You’ll motivate one another.
This one is a gimme, but maybe I just take for granted sometimes how Mike always holds me accountable. In a stable, long-term relationship, this is good, because it means both partners feel comfortable speaking up in the best interests of their loved one. In this context, it means having someone there to push you to get up, get out, and keep from slacking. Since fitness is habit forming, this is one of the best things that can happen. Repetition is the backbone of any person’s journey to wellness.
2. You’ll engage in healthy competition.
Piggybacking off that, I think that there’s nothing wrong with a little competition in a relationship, as long as it’s healthy. Case in point, I can already tell that Mike and I will be engaging in a little gym race to see who put in the most. It’s just how we are- it makes for harmless ribbing; and if it kicks our butts into gear, I’m all for it.
3. You know each other’s tics.
We all have those days when we’re feeling irritable, sick, or maybe just low. Those are days when it’s best not to push, and instead to let the chips fall where they may and be gentle with ourselves. We don’t always advertise this outwardly, and what’s great is that couples who spend a lot of time together already know the nuances of their partner’s personality in and out, the nonverbal cues, the pet peeves, all that. This can help avoid pushing to the point of instinctively stepping back from the gym, which in my case I do a lot, and then it takes me forever to get back into it. Mike knows this, and when we embark on a program together I like when he just gets whether I’m having a good day or bad day, and how hard I should push myself.
4. You’ll be spending quality time together.
Mike and I are so busy, sometimes it’s hard to get time in together that isn’t spent on the couch. Working out together, we’ll be sweating, sure, but we will be doing an activity together that boosts our endorphins, makes our bodies stronger, and gives us a sense of accomplishment. Helluva date night.
5. You’ll both be healthier- physically and emotionally.
Ditto. But seriously, wellness is a windy road that can be difficult to trek alone. Having someone join us on that journey towards better physical and mental health means that you have someone to share in on every pitfall and every peak. I can’t think of anything else more romantic.
Well, I’m still feeling a tad under the weather, so I’m most likely going to warm up a cup of tea, settle in, and watch some Netflix. I’m excited to get back up to full power and kickstart our little fitness competition next week!
Keep it real,